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Have you had those frustrating moments when you’ve said to yourself, “This happens to me all the time!” or “Why is this happening to me?” As a society, we tend to look at life like it’s happening to us instead of for us. I am perplexed by the number of people who don’t see the correlation between who they are being and what is showing up for them in life.

I like to use my husband as an example. We were late leaving for a family party. He had been pacing around the house strongly urging my girls to hurry up. I could tell he was trying to maintain his composure but inside was steaming like a pressure cooker. Finally heading for the car, he grabbed a can of pop (soda) on his way out. He jumped in the car, opened his pop and ffffshshsh!!!!, it exploded. He jumped up in complete shock and shouted, “Are you freaking kidding me!” In my mind, I knew exactly what had happened.

I have seen and experienced similar scenarios unfolding like clockwork. Over the years, I’ve contemplated this, trying to gain clarity on the process behind why it happens. One day, through a vision in my mind’s eye, I saw a depiction of what’s going on in those moments when the “unexpected” happens. The illustration below conveys the influence you have in shaping your life.

Like everything in life, lasting change starts with awareness. This is because what you see externally is indicative of what’s going on internally. When you send out mixed/negative/positive signals, you get the same signals back.

Obviously, this is an oversimplification of the intricacies of existence, but it will help you more clearly identify and create what is showing up for you. When you understand this process, you can start being more intentional about what you’re putting out.

“What I Put Out” is influenced by your life’s journey. It’s often a repeated pattern you have created/established in response to particular situations/stimuli. It’s your typical state of “being.” The validity or relevance of these patterns are commonly left unchallenged for where you are currently at in life.

“Shows Up For Me” is what you are seeing in life. Who or what keeps showing up in your experience to show you more clearly what you’re putting out – mirroring.

“How I Take It Back In” is a choice. You can decide that what is showing up irritates you, or you can take a closer look at what it’s trying to tell you – the gift in it. How I respond in this step (and the life filter/story that I run it through) influences “How I Put It Back Out.” And the cycle continues. You don’t need to be the victim of your cycle.

How to change all of this? Be aware of and make more conscious choices. Next time you’re in one of those situations, try making a different choice. And, watch in amazement when the outcome changes. You have way more power than you think!

Playing With the Author – Lori Kuhn

Part of my career was as a Business Risk Consultant for Arthur Anderson, (at the time) a Big Six public accounting firm. The primary function of my position was assessing areas of high risk within organizations. This skill was natural for me and one that I’ve always applied in life. I continue to use this talent to look for the causes of issues so I can help others find their best solutions.

Am I the Jerk?

October 14, 2022
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Been There. Done That. Still Doing It.

August 3, 2022
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Stay stuck in the muck or spring into life? It’s your choice!

March 10, 2022
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I Hate Math!

February 23, 2022
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Where Your Girls At?

February 19, 2022
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Happy (?) Holidays

February 18, 2022
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Everyone Should Listen to Ted Lasso

February 18, 2022
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Go Through It

September 2, 2021
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Mindset of a Champion

August 31, 2021
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