People are taking to the internet…to the airwaves…discussing on podcasts…

“Am I the Jerk?”

(actually on TikTok the trend is to ask “Am I the @**h***?”)

I mean, if you have to ask…

YES.

Or at least you’ve played a part in the story, situation, experience that’s being analyzed that lends to jerkiness.

Honestly, are you asking because you sincerely care or wonder if you’re the jerk?

Or is it a way to get attention and validation – a veiled way to show how you are a victim in a situation?

My questions to the asker are:

1. How did you show up in the situation/experience? Was it from a place of Love + Personal Responsibility™?
2. Were you connected to your Inner Truth™?
3. Do you feel like the jerk? And are beating yourself up replaying “game tape review” in your mind? Or is it actual feedback you received?
4. Did you overstep a boundary or did someone overstep yours and you’re simply enforcing said boundary?
5. Wondering what the heck all these bolded words mean and what they have to do with the question “Am I the Jerk?”
   1. Then I invite you to take a break from the internet, the airwaves, the podcasts and spend sometime getting to know yourself and how you want to show up in life so you don’t ever feel the need to ask “Am I the Jerk?”

Who am I kidding? We’re all “the jerk” sometimes. How human of us!

So it’s apropos to also spend some time figuring out for ourselves how to take accountability for our actions, words and life and when to offer apologies when we’re the @**h***.

*Trademarks courtesy of Thrive – a human development company.