If you look at yourself closely enough, chances are you will find that the problem and the solution start there.

As children we are taught to look to our parents, teachers, leaders, etc. for what is good and bad, safe or unsafe. As infants/children we needed this guidance. However, there comes a time in our children’s lives when they can be taught to start looking within to determine what is best, safe, and beneficial strengthening their OWN skills of discernment and intuition/instincts.

As parents, leaders, we don’t do this. We don’t teach people one of the most important skills they’ll ever learn in their entire life – self-discernment. We were never taught to look internally for answers to who we should be, how we should act, and what we should like and/or dislike.

Instead, looking externally for answers was not only reinforced but was rewarded.

If someone goes through life looking externally for who they should be, how they should act, and what decisions they should make, they will be rendered powerless, insecure, and governed by external programming. “If that person would only be this or do that, I’d feel better. If that person weren’t so hateful I wouldn’t hate them.”

We wonder why suicide, depression, anxiety, hate, and division are so rampant in our communities.

It starts with you. It starts with personal responsibility. It starts with learning and teaching our children and ourselves the skills of discernment and love and personal responsibility so we can clearly connect to what is right within and for ourselves. Not what is right for someone else that we take on as ours.

As a society we have become disconnected from our Inner Truth, that light that shines within each of us. That knowing and intuition that unerringly guides us throughout our lives. Someone else’s knowing does not get me there. My knowing get’s me there. And when I connect to this space, I can clearly see my personally responsibility in every situation. If not, then everyone else is responsible for my life experience. And, I vehemently blame them.

If challenging people or situations are showing up in your life, if your family seems off the rails, and/or work seems out of control, ask yourself:

• What is my responsibility is in this?
• How am I being challenging, off the rails, and/or out of control (physically and energetically)?
• What is my contribution to this experience?
• What can I do to move things forward more positively?

Be personally responsible. Take a good look at yourself first and you’ll no longer have to make others responsible for your challenges.